You can’t walk on water or fly unassisted through the air.

But here’s a superpower you can develop, starting today: the art of listening well.

Much of the time our listening (especially in situations where we are debating a topic) is really just waiting for our opponent to finish talking so we can respond.

It’s a truism in medical diagnosis that the patient will tell their healer what’s the matter with them. But that requires intense questioning and real listening.

And if that’s true professionally, it’s doubly so in your personal life.

Just listen. Especially when it’s someone you love. Keep asking, “Is there more?” until there is no more. It’s the way to truly learn what someone is thinking. They will tell you what you want to know. Just let them.